Freedom and Responsibility in the Elementary Classroom
Suzanna Mayhugh, Lower Elementary Teacher • January 19, 2026

Montessori Mayhem? Pint-Sized Pandemonium? 


When I give tours of the Elementary classrooms or welcome new parents to the Elementary program at Wheaton Montessori School, some parents believe that students are allowed complete freedom, as if the classrooms are a beautiful den of chaos and anarchy. Indeed, this is one of the biggest misconceptions about Montessori education. (The biggest misconception being, in my experience, that Montessori isn’t “real world” education. But as we say in our lessons, “That’s a story for another day.”)  


While Montessori classrooms DO give children the freedoms they require and deserve, it’s not an unlimited free-for-all with an adult watching from an observation chair! Freedom is always balanced with responsibility, to oneself and to the community.  These values, freedom and responsibility, are essential for creating a happy, busy, humming classroom where children thrive.

 

What Does Freedom Mean in Our Classroom?


“Freedom” in the classroom means that students are encouraged to make choices about their learning. Just as in our Primary classrooms at Wheaton Montessori School, students are free to choose their work, their seat, and their work partners. They are free to move about the classroom and do not need to raise their hands to visit the restroom, get a drink of water, or ask a question. Let’s look at a few of these freedoms more closely. 


Students are Free to Choose Their Work.  


For example, they may choose which book to read, choose a work partner to research a chosen topic, or practice a tricky bit of a lesson over and over. They are also able to choose how they will show their understanding. They might present their understanding through a poster, a diorama, a model, a handmade book, or an enormous amount of cardboard and hot glue. These choices empower students to take charge of their education and express themselves in ways that suit their interests and strengths, something a standardized test or a worksheet can never do.


However, freedom in the classroom ALWAYS has limits. For example, students are free to choose their work, but choosing NOT to work is not an option. They are free to choose their work from the lessons that have been presented to them. While students may choose their reading material, it must be appropriate for their reading level and classroom guidelines. When students select a partner, they must do so respectfully and inclusively. When students create projects and work output, they must do so with care, make proper use of materials, and in a way that shows what they understand about their topic. Additionally, these choices should never disrupt their own learning and construction, or that of their peers.  


The Role of Responsibility


In a true Montessori classroom, freedom comes with responsibility. And that responsibility can sometimes be uncomfortable at first. Students are expected to care for classroom materials, such as returning books and lesson materials to the shelf, taking part in classroom jobs, keeping a record of their work in their work journals, and handling art supplies properly. They are responsible for practicing their lessons and completing chosen follow-up work, listening attentively during lessons or when a classmate is sharing a presentation or thought, and helping classmates when needed and available.  A student is not free to use materials in a way that damages or wastes the classroom supplies or puts anyone in harm’s way. Freedom within our classroom never allows for harming oneself, others, or the classroom materials.  


Healthy boundaries, limits, and structures are consistently communicated in advance with clarity and respect, ensuring practicality and alignment within the community. Classroom expectations and rules are collaboratively developed and agreed upon by the community. In order to foster a positive learning environment, both students and teachers are expected to adhere to the shared expectations and responsibilities. When necessary, the classroom adult will address students and reiterate expectations and boundaries in a firm yet considerate manner. This balanced approach is effective only when maintained consistently throughout each day.


What Might it Look Like When the Balance Needs to Shift? 


The adults in the classroom are constantly observing the children to be sure that each child has as much freedom as they are ready for, providing them space, room, and opportunities to show their strengths, and make their own choices throughout the day. When that freedom is too much, a teacher might need to provide more lessons in how to use materials that have been damaged or used improperly, limit work partner choices, or have a student sit with the teacher while they practice lessons or work with precious art materials.  The adults will be watching for the perfect moment to allow the child increased freedom within the classroom, and within the limits of the understood responsibilities.  


How Freedom and Responsibility Work Together


Finding the right mix of freedom and responsibility is something we work on together every day in our classroom. Montessori teachers are specially trained to guide this balance, helping students practice important skills like making good choices, solving problems, and learning self-control. When children are trusted to make decisions, they also learn to take responsibility for those choices. Experiencing the natural consequences of their actions helps them become kind, thoughtful, and capable members of their community who understand how their choices affect others.


What Does This Have to Do with Parents? 


Your support at home makes a big difference. 


By working together, we can help your child thrive both at school and at home. Encouraging your child to take responsibility for their actions and decisions reinforces what they learn in class.  Yes, it can be uncomfortable, but it is necessary. It also becomes easier, more comfortable, and needs to be practiced less often when practiced consistently (like most things!). This supportive consistency across settings, at home and at school, helps children feel confident, cared for, and increasingly independent.


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Without fail, most of my Parent-Teacher Conferences end with a parent asking, “What can we be doing at home?” And without fail, I respond, “Read. Read with them, to them, next to them, near them. Even if they read themselves. Keep them reading.” Reading is a skill that must be practiced, over and over again. Enjoying a book is not a skill that we’re born with in Kingdom Animalia. It’s a skill we learn by watching those around us, modeling reading as young children, trying over and over to find the book that hooks us for life. But what if your child doesn’t love reading? What if it’s a battle at home? Here are a few tips that I’ve learned from my fellow teachers, from my time as a parent, and from observing students in the classroom. Start early! Read to them as soon as you get them home for the first time! Not only does reading at a very early age have language comprehension, memory, and narrative skills implications for later in life, it also helps create a bond and habit early on. Feeling late to the party? Start now! Let them pick books they like. Are they choosing the same book again and again? Great! They’re reading! Are they reading the 8453rd installment of Rainbow Magic Fairies? Good! They’re reading! Diary of a Wimpy Kid? Great! The graphic novel of the comic based on the novel they already read? GREAT! Is your pre-reader paging through Goodnight Moon for the 54th time today? Wonderful. There is so much research showing repeated exposure to the same book supports fluency, automaticity, narrative expression, comprehension, and confidence at all levels of reading. Have books in every room. Like all new skills, without access to the needed tools and equipment, those new skills don’t get practiced. Stock your bedrooms, bathrooms, kitchens, and cars with books. (My family has rules about the dining room table during dinner, but that rule can bend quite quickly when someone is “at a good part.” Assess what they are filling their time with instead of reading. Do they actually have time to read? Is there ever a “down” moment that they would even be able to fill with reading? Often, lack of time is one of the biggest obstacles. If your child wants to be in every after-school class, on the travel teams, or you’re just always coming-and-going, keep books in the car. Load your playlist with audiobooks (yes, they “count” as reading). And here’s where I lose some of you: Is what they are doing instead of reading something your family values? Are they watching videos of other kids playing Minecraft? Are they doom-scrolling at the age of 7? Are they on YouTube Shorts for hours? If so, the chances of them picking up a book, which takes mental work, isn’t high. If you want to help your child love reading, you have to assess what they’re doing instead of reading. Still with me? Make reading a moment for connection. Your children idolize you. They want your attention. They want to feel close to you. Build on that desire. Read to them for as long as they will allow. I promise, your teenager wants these moments. Your three-year-old craves these moments. Make the effort to build it into your routine to read together and guard that moment with all that you have. Let them put down books they don’t like. Do you remember being forced to finish a book in school, just so that you could be quizzed on it? To tell the adult asking you to read it that yes, you’d indeed finished it against your own judgment and free will? Don’t be the one that does that to their reading enjoyment. If they don’t like a book, let them move on to the next one. Is the book they detest your childhood favorite? I see you, I feel you, I’ve been you. It stings when your daughter does NOT feel the same way about Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle as you did in second grade. Even worse when it’s From the Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankwieler. Just let them move on. It’s not worth the heartache of trying to convince them. Trust me, I know. Give them variety - and don’t talk down about their favorites. Allow them to read across a wide menu of options: graphic novels, comics, short stories, mysteries, picture books at an older age, a series that makes you want to roll your eyes. Not a fan of graphic novels or comics? Please don’t require “serious reading” before they get to something “fun.” That implies that some reading is automatically a drudgery - which will lead to avoidance altogether. Don’t overlook comics and graphic novels. Leaf through some at the library and see how they’ve evolved over the last decade. Comics are also shown to increase vocabulary, strengthen sequencing skills, and provide art education. Even better, comics and graphic novels can be a bridge for students with dyslexia, autism, and attention challenges. Don’t overlook them as a very helpful, brightly-colored tool in your reader’s toolbox! Remember - the goal is to get them reading to begin with and let them find what they love through the process. When I was a Wheaton Montessori School parent with young primary children, well before I took the AMI Elementary training, their teachers, Ms. Chiste and Mrs. Fortun, recommended “The Rights of the Reader” by Daniel Pennac during several of their parent workshops. I’d like to pass along the recommendation, as it has served my family - and teaching - for years now. Learning to love reading is a skill, just as reading itself is. Research is showing that we’re headed in the wrong direction, with just 1-in-3 public school fourth graders in Illinois reading proficiently, and college students at top universities being unable to follow or complete full books. Your chances and opportunities for “raising readers” are at-hand, so be off with you to the library! https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2024/11/the-elite-college-students-who-cant-read-books/679945/ https://www.illinoispolicy.org/literacy-epidemic-hits-illinois-as-fewer-than-1-in-3-students-read-well/