Why Your Child Interrupts: What They’re Telling You
Rebecca Lingo • December 29, 2025

We all know that moment: you answer a phone call, you catch up with a neighbor, or you finally sit down to rest. Then your children suddenly need you. They seem to appear out of nowhere: asking questions, demanding attention, or starting a squabble with a sibling.


While these moments can feel frustrating, they actually reveal something important: your child is seeking connection and security. When your attention shifts to someone or something else, your child may feel that their access to you (their safe, familiar center) is threatened.


From our perspective, this isn’t misbehavior. It’s communication. Your child is expressing something along the lines of: “I need to know I still belong, even when you’re busy.”


Laying the Groundwork: Connection Before Independence


The best way to prevent these interruptions isn’t just to set limits but to strengthen the strong connections you have created before they’re tested.


Time

Create small moments for your children. They don’t need to be elaborate. Think about the little things, like taking a short walk together, reading a favorite book, or making breakfast side by side.


Be fully present when you can 

When you are spending time together, let your phone stay out of reach. This quiet modeling communicates, “I’m really with you.”


Invite responsibility. 

Children gain confidence and feel important when they have real contributions at home. Even small tasks, such as helping feed the pet, folding napkins, or assisting a sibling, can help them feel grounded in their role in the family community.


Our Strategy


Children thrive when they can predict what will happen next. If phone calls are a recurring challenge, you can prepare your child by practicing in advance.


Choose a calm time to introduce the idea: 


  • “Sometimes I need to talk on the phone. While I do that, you choose an activity to work on until I’m done. Then I’ll come back to you.”
  • Together, brainstorm activities (a favorite puzzle, coloring book, or quiet game). 
  • Then practice through role play. Pretend to answer the phone while your child goes to their activity. When the “call” is over, reconnect warmly: “You waited by doing your activity. I see your patience!”
  • Switch acting roles so you get to giggle!


During real calls, you can offer gentle physical reassurance (perhaps a quick hug or a touch on the back) without engaging in conversation. This small, wordless connection helps your child feel secure while still learning to wait.


Modeling Respect for Boundaries


Over time, your child learns an important lesson about how love doesn’t disappear when attention shifts. They also learn to respect others’ time and space, an essential soft skill that we can partner with you in developing.


This kind of learning takes repetition and patience. Expect your child to test the limits now and then, especially in the beginning. But each time you calmly follow through, you’re helping your child build emotional independence, self-regulation, and respect for others’ boundaries.


Curious to learn more about how we at Wheaton Montessori School think differently about children’s behavior? 


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How Your Young Children Learn and Why It Matters
By Rebecca Lingo February 23, 2026
How Your Young Children Learn and Why It Matters Your young children learn by actively constructing themselves through purposeful work. From birth through age six, learning is not passive or instructional. It is driven from within your child, supported by responsive adults like you and all of my colleagues. This internal passion to learn is also boosted through the campus design and surroundings. Every movement, repetition, and exploration is meaningful work that builds the child’s body, mind, language, and sense of self. How learning happens Active construction through work: Your young children learn by doing. Don’t we all! Movement, using the hands, exploring real materials, and repeating challenging tasks are how the brain develops. This work must be meaningful and appropriately challenging, not busy work. Movement and the hand: Development of walking, balance, and refined hand use is foundational. Your children of all ages need freedom to move and manipulate real objects to fully develop coordination, concentration, and foundational academics like writing and adding. Language through relationship: Language develops through reciprocal human interactions. Rich spoken language, conversation, naming the world, and storytelling are essential. Wheaton Montessori School eliminates screens and background noise to highlight communication. Sensorial exploration of reality: Your children learn the world through their senses. Touching, comparing, carrying, observing, and interacting with real things builds the foundation for imagination, reasoning, and abstract thinking later. Authentic Montessori immerses us in exploration and discovery. Sensitive periods: Your children pass through brief, powerful windows of heightened interest and ability, such as for language, movement, social behavior, etc. Wheaton Montessori School teachers observe and offer the right experience at the right time. Learning happens easily and joyfully and feels like play! Concentration and normalization: When your children are connected to meaningful work that they choose themselves and repeat, they develop deep concentration, self-regulation, delight in effort, and care for others. Why This Is Important Early experiences shape lifelong learning: Early experiences lay the neurological, emotional, and social foundation for everything that follows. Missed opportunities are harder to recover: Skills learned during ideal stages are acquired with ease. When these periods are missed, learning later requires more effort and frustration. My colleagues are passionate about tailoring lessons and their classrooms to match child development (and adolescent development, too!) Strong foundations support later independence: Your children deserve rich early support leading to confident, capable, socially aware, and academically prepared people. Well-supported children become well-adjusted humans: This approach supports not just academic readiness, but the development of secure, courteous, empathetic children who care about their community and the world. In short, your children learn best when they are trusted as active learners, supported by attentive adults, and given real, challenging work at the right time. Investing in this early foundation supports not only your child’s success in school, but their lifelong well-being and ability to thrive.
Be Quiet and Sit Still
By Rebecca Lingo February 16, 2026
At Wheaton Montessori School, your child is guided by highly trained professionals who deeply understand child and adolescent development. Every day, thoughtful structures and intentional practices support students in using their intellect, curiosity, time, and choices successfully, so they can grow into capable, self-directed individuals. Dr. Maria Montessori never equated being “good” with silence or stillness. Our teachers do not equate being well-behaved with being quiet and sitting still. In fact, like Dr. Montessori, we believe that movement, communication, and social interaction are essential to learning. When you observe a classroom at Wheaton Montessori School, you’ll see exactly that: children moving purposefully, talking with peers, collaborating, and responsibly managing their academic work throughout the day. What may look like “freedom” on the surface is actually built upon a strong underlying structure. Students experience a sense of choice, what to work on, where to sit, how long to engage, and who to collaborate with, because the environment has been carefully prepared to support those decisions. The Power of Structure and Grace The foundation of our campus is made up of proactive lessons called Grace and Courtesy . These lessons explicitly teach students how to: Set up and return materials Respect others’ space and work Ask to observe a peer’s work Acknowledge feelings and resolve conflict respectfully These shared lessons give everyone a common language and reference point for living and learning together. Older or more experienced students model appropriate behavior, creating classrooms full of young teachers, not just the adults guiding the environment. Students always have opportunities to challenge themselves or to take a healthy break. They work and play with materials they are developmentally ready to use, ensuring success while still encouraging growth. Not a Free-For-All: A Thoughtfully Designed Community Authentic Montessori environments are often misunderstood as unstructured. In reality, our campus is carefully designed to meet the developmental needs of preschool children through high school freshmen. The structure is natural, respectful, and aligned with who children and adolescents truly are. We know learners may still experience frustration, regret, and disappointment at times. Those moments are part of learning. When a child sits beside a teacher to regroup, it may feel like a “time out” to them, but it is actually a moment of support, reflection, and connection within a safe community. When challenging behaviors arise, our teachers respond with empathy and expertise. They understand that all behavior communicates a need. Rather than relying on rewards or punishments, teachers may guide a child toward a break, offer work that better meets their developmental needs, or help them return to a centered and purposeful state. Growing Self-Discipline From the Inside Out At Wheaton Montessori School, self-discipline and regulation develop through meaningful activity. Expected behavior grows through practice within a warm, structured community. Curiosity sparks interest, interest fuels focus, and focus leads toward mastery. This process contributes to valorization, your child’s growing sense of confidence, capability, and belonging. Children who feel balanced and respected naturally behave with greater care for themselves, others, and their environment. This sums up Dr. Montessori’s limits in three rules: care for yourself, care for others, and care for your surroundings. The true outcome of this work is human development: your child and adolescent’s identity, agency, purpose, and love of learning. When they understand big ideas and see themselves as capable contributors, they grow in ways that last a lifetime.