Potty Training
Rebecca Lingo • May 22, 2024

Rebecca Lingo, Co-Founder & Head of School at Wheaton Montessori School, shares her thoughts on potty-training requirements for preschool children.

Potty-training requirements for preschool can be a huge disservice to children.


Children who excel in academic and social situations may be held back or excluded for not having this ONE skill mastered. At Wheaton Montessori School, learning to use the restroom is just one skill out of many that we help your child learn. It is not the determining factor for your child’s success in life.


Why I’m not worried about your child being potty-trained at Wheaton Montessori School


Recently, a local doctor told me how she and her husband stumbled upon a Montessori preschool program for their young son, nearly twenty years ago.


Their son was having trouble potty-training. He was bright, sociable, curious, happy, and clever. He just had trouble with toilet-training. And as a result, he was going to be excluded from the next year’s preschool class, a traditional classroom with a hard-line requirement on children being out of diapers and pull-ups. The parents, both doctors, were embarrassed. Why couldn’t they figure it out? Why couldn’t they get through to their son, who was so smart and clever? Was something wrong with their son?


Knowing he wouldn’t be allowed to advance to the next class level, they started looking for options outside of a traditional preschool environment. One option they found was a Montessori preschool. When they explained that they were calling because of their previous school’s hard-line potty-training requirement, they were told immediately, as we tell parents who call us with the same concern, “I am not worried at all about your son not being potty-trained.”


Potty-training is big work for a child.

 

Potty-training and learning proper bathroom behavior is huge work for a young child. Like reading, some children learn it early and easily. Others need more practice and time.


Excluding a child that’s ready for academic challenges, social stimulation, and experience outside the home because of potty-training only hurts the child. At Wheaton Montessori, we worry more that your child is provided with work that they’re capable of at the right time. We worry more that they’re enrolling at the age at which their curiosity is peaking. We worry more that they’re working on what they’re developmentally ready for and able to master.


Back to the doctor’s son: She reported that Montessori was a perfect fit for their family. Her son leads a successful life as an adult. She and her husband learned to accept him for who he is and what he’s capable of in each moment.


This is our goal in a Montessori environment: helping your child develop into highly capable adults prepared for the real world. Proper toileting behaviors, a big part of this, will happen in time. But that timing is different for each child.


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Already a parent here? We would love to hear from you what you experienced around potty training or other skills leading to independence. Send us your stories to discover@wheatonmontessori.org.

How Geometry Got Its Name
By Rebecca Lingo February 2, 2026
In Wheaton Montessori School classrooms, we like to introduce big ideas with big stories. We offer children a sense of wonder first, sort of like an imaginative doorway, so that when they later study formulas, theorems, and proofs, they already feel connected to the human story behind them. One of these stories is The Story of How Geometry Got Its Name, an introduction to a subject that is far older than the textbooks and protractors we encounter today. In Montessori, Geometry is more than about shapes. It is about human beings solving real problems in the real world. A Problem as Old as Civilization To reintroduce geometry, we time-travel back around 5,000 years to the ancient civilization of Egypt. This was a land shaped by the Nile River, the longest river in the world. Each year, the Nile flooded its banks as snowmelt poured down from the mountains far to the south. The Egyptians depended on this yearly flood as it left behind rich, dark silt that nourished their crops and made life possible in an otherwise harsh desert. But the flood created a challenge, too. It washed away the boundary markers that separated one farmer’s field from another. When the waters receded, no one could quite remember where their land began and ended. Arguments ensued. “This corner is mine!” And the fields needed to be measured and marked again. The First Geometers: The Rope Stretchers To solve this annual problem, the Egyptians relied on a special group of skilled workers called the Harpedonaptai, or Rope Stretchers. These were early land surveyors who used a knotted rope tied at regular intervals and three weights to create a very particular triangle. In our elementary classrooms, we invite a few children to hold a prepared rope at its large knots, forming that same triangle. As they stretch it out and lay it on the ground, many quickly recognize what the Egyptians had unknowingly created: a scalene right-angled triangle. This shape would later become central to the geometry studied by Greek mathematicians. The Harpedonaptai used this simple tool to re-establish field boundaries, set right angles, and make sure the land was measured accurately and fairly. Geometry, in its earliest form, served a deeply practical purpose. From Rope to Pyramid The Harpedonaptai’s expertise was valued far beyond the farmlands. They also helped lay out the foundations of temples, monuments, and even the Great Pyramid of Giza. The base of the Great Pyramid is a perfect square, which is an astonishing feat of measurement and design. The Pharaoh himself oversaw these measurements, but it was the Rope Stretchers who executed them. Their work represents one of humanity’s earliest recorded sciences: the careful measuring of the earth. How Geometry Got Its Name The name geometry reflects this ancient practice. It comes from two Greek words: gê — earth metron — measure Geometry literally means earth measurement. The Egyptians did not use the language of right angles, nor did they classify triangles as we do today. Their work was grounded in practical needs. They needed to solve problems, organize land, and create structures that would endure for thousands of years. Yet their discoveries influenced later thinkers like Pythagoras, who likely traveled to Egypt and learned from their methods. Over time, the simple knotted rope inspired a whole discipline devoted to understanding lines, angles, shapes, and the relationships between them. Why We Tell This Story in Montessori When Montessori children hear this story, something important happens. Geometry becomes more than a set of rules or vocabulary words. It becomes a human endeavor born from curiosity, necessity, and ingenuity. The heart of Montessori education at Wheaton Montessori School is to help children view knowledge not as isolated subjects, but as valuable gifts passed down from earlier generations. When children pick up a ruler, explore angles with a protractor, or classify triangles in the classroom, they are continuing a legacy that began with those early Rope Stretchers, the Harpedonaptai on the banks of the Nile. Through story, students feel connected to the people who shaped our world and to the problems that inspired great ideas. Geometry becomes meaningful, purposeful, and alive, from our preschoolers working with the Geometry Cabinet , to elementary students classifying and measuring angles or using hands-on Pythagorean Theory materials, and all the way through our adolescents. At the adolescent level, geometry moves fully into the real world. Students apply measurement, angles, area, scale, and spatial reasoning through meaningful work across campus, including: Measuring and mapping land for the campus’s Wetland Conservation Area, as well as calculating classroom square footage for recognition and accreditation applications Understanding and applying area, perimeter, scale, and proportion when working with acreage, restoration plans, and campus layouts Designing and situating functional structures such as chicken coops using geometric principles Applying angle classification, measurement, and spatial reasoning through woodworking Using geometry to cut, join, and build accurately, including raised beds, greenhouses, and beehive insulation boxes
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By Rebecca Lingo January 26, 2026
Learn how the Montessori Absorbent Mind empowers young children to effortlessly absorb language, culture, and behavior, and how parents can nurture it.