Our Gifts to Children
Rebecca Lingo • November 27, 2023

In order to understand how we can be truly present with and for our children, we have to recognize how children perceive and process our actions and their environment.


The brains of young children through adolescence work differently than our adult brains. Sensorial experiences shape young children’s brains, forming neurological webs that last throughout their life.  During adolescence, the brain is still developing. The prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain behind the forehead, is one of the last parts to mature. This area which guides these young adults in making plans and decisions is under construction. 


Understanding the structure of interactions, the process of acquiring new skills, need for organized spaces, and importance of self-care can serve as a guide for us in taking mindful parenting approaches.


Interactions


The fact that our interactions with young people help shape their future selves opens up an incredible opportunity. Each experience is a gift. Often the simplest moments can carry the most meaning.


By being open to the wonder and delight our children experience, we gain new perspectives while also giving the best gift of all: our attention while we spend time with them.


This may mean taking a deep breath and momentarily turning off the chatter of the to-do list, squatting down to a small child’s eye level, smiling, and just listening or seeing what they want to share. A helpful mantra might be: Talk less. Listen more. For parents of adolescence, we want to be ready when they initiate conversation.


New Skills


In addition to giving our full attention, whether for 20 seconds or 20 minutes, we can also offer to share a young person a new skill. The key to these teaching moments is to focus on each distinct step so the skill is simple and attainable. Very young children can be involved with tasks like setting the table, wrapping gifts, and tending to simple household maintenance whereas adolescents are involved in activities such as planning, shopping, and preparing meals at school. Our children appreciate being involved with their age-appropriate activities and they want to contribute in a meaningful way.


Getting the attention of the adolescent may be challenging, and at times, the parent may feel pushed away. An adolescent approaches a parent when they need their attention and if they feel we are too busy for that, it may spark regretful feelings on their part such as they shouldn’t have come to you. Adolescents approaching their parents feel vulnerable. Adolescents seek full attention when needed, expect you to be their sounding board and want to be taken seriously. 


Dr. Jane Healy, author of numerous books, including Your Child’s Growing Mind, reminds us that children need the opportunity to repeatedly practice activities that seem second nature to adults: “Self-help skills and household jobs are very important for the child to master–help your child, but encourage him to do it himself even if the job isn’t done exactly your way!”  


When encouraging or supporting a child in trying a new skill or participating in a new task, be sure to take your child’s perspective into account. Showing how to do something is often the most effective and verbalized instructions can be kept to a minimum. In fact, for young children, it is best to not talk while showing something and to not show something while talking! This allows the child to focus and keep the information clear in their mind. Adolescents consider themselves involved while they are acquiring new skills or participating in a new task. They evaluate how they can be of value and the impact it will have. Understanding their view and expectations will provide you with an opportunity to work side by side with your teenager.  


These kinds of ordered and clear experiences are key to a child’s development. “Impressions do not merely enter his mind; they form it,” explained Dr. Maria Montessori a physician turned educator who spent intensive time observing children, making scientific notes, and thus coming to an enlightened understanding of childhood development.


Organized Spaces


Dr. Montessori observed how children respond positively to organization, both in terms of expected routines and physical space. Current research, such as that comparing the HOME inventory (Home Observation for Measurement of the Environment) to longitudinal information collected in the Bayley Mental Development Inventory, shows that organized environments lead to higher intelligence scores.


When life gets busier as it does for all, young children benefit greatly from adults in their lives maintaining a calm sense of order during this busy time. As adolescents try to look trendy and create schedules to help them feel sure of themselves, they are in search of equilibrium until they eventually attain success. A consistent routine can help maintain balance as hormones and emotions are fluctuating and bodies are developing.



Self Care


In order to create a calm, ordered environment, we ourselves need to have balance and clarity in our own lives. Staying present in the moment, breathing deeply, and ultimately taking care of our own needs allows us to offer our best selves to the children around us. 


What we offer to our children, in terms of our presence, special activities, or toys, can provide opportunities to aid their development. We can provide objects that have an intelligent purpose and help children contribute in a meaningful way to the order around them. Correctly sized, yet real, items are particularly valuable: cooking tools, building tools, yard tools, and even mops and brooms. 


Children don’t stay young for long, and the early years are extremely formative. In her book, Understanding the Human Being: The Importance of the First Three Years of Life, Silvana Quattrocchi Montanaro explains the significance of a young child’s experiences: “Everything that comes from the environment is received, processed and stored in the brain cells with no effort using a form of unconscious absorption. This intense mental activity is always going on, even in prenatal life, and it characterizes ‘the absorbent mind’.” 


Knowing that the young children around us are absorbing everything about their surroundings, let’s give them our attention, meaningful ways to contribute to daily tasks, 

and a calm, ordered environment. As a result, we will be helping some remarkable young people as they develop into capable, caring young adults.  


Schedule a school tour by clicking this link to learn more about the accommodating environments we provide for these “absorbent minds,”. During your visit, we can provide more guidance about setting up home environments that best support child development and show how our learning environments are specifically designed for neurological growth.


Current parents please use these links to sign up for your classroom observation:


Adolescent Seminar Observation

Ms. Searcy’s Upper Elementary Classroom Observation

Mrs. Fortun’s Lower Elementary Classroom Observation

Mrs. Mayhugh’s Lower Elementary Classroom Observation

Mrs. Berdick’s Primary Classroom Observation

Ms. Carr’s Primary Classroom Observation

Ms. Chiste’s Primary Classroom Observation

Mrs. Rogers’ Primary Classroom Observation

1 For more information on this research, check out the book, Montessori: The Science Behind the Genius by Angeline Stoll Lillard.New Paragraph

2 For Small Hands, www.forsmallhands.com/scp/121628, is a great resource to purchase unique and educational holiday gifts for your own children, friends, and/or relatives while supporting our school!  This program allows our school to earn credit to use to purchase classroom materials to enhance your child's learning experience.
Materials Spotlight: Sandpaper Letters & Moveable Alphabet
By Rebecca Lingo February 9, 2026
Unlocking Literacy the Montessori Way At Wheaton Montessori School, Montessori literacy materials like Sandpaper Letters and the Moveable Alphabet provide hands-on experiences that connect sounds, symbols, and meaning, building the foundation for confident reading and writing. These materials help children translate the words they hear into the symbols they see, developing strong neural pathways for literacy while fostering independence and a love of language. In this blog, we explore how Sandpaper Letters and the Moveable Alphabet guide children from sound awareness to word building, creating a joyful approach to early literacy. Sandpaper Letters The Sandpaper Letters incorporate decades of insight into how children truly learn to read and write. Sandpaper Letters embody the Science of Reading—connecting sound, symbol, and meaning through hands-on learning and building strong neural pathways for literacy. These timeless Montessori principles continue to align beautifully with what modern science confirms about how your child’s brain learns best. Moveable Alphabet Before handwriting comes word building! The Moveable Alphabet lets your children ‘write’ their thoughts with letters long before they can hold a pencil—bridging the gap between spoken and written language. With literacy materials like the Moveable Alphabet, children communicate their thoughts by building words with cut-out letters—translating the sounds they hear into symbols they can see. This powerful step develops the foundation for reading and writing, helping children understand that words are made of sounds and that sounds can be represented with letters. Because our teachers base every lesson on development, writing comes first—because it’s easier to build words from sounds than to read or decode someone else's written thoughts. Our literacy approach at Wheaton Montessori School is designed to meet each child where they are, providing hands-on experiences that foster confidence, independence, and a lifelong love of reading and writing. From Sandpaper Letters to the Moveable Alphabet, every tool and lesson helps children connect sounds to symbols, build words, and discover the joy of language.
How Geometry Got Its Name
By Rebecca Lingo February 2, 2026
In Wheaton Montessori School classrooms, we like to introduce big ideas with big stories. We offer children a sense of wonder first, sort of like an imaginative doorway, so that when they later study formulas, theorems, and proofs, they already feel connected to the human story behind them. One of these stories is The Story of How Geometry Got Its Name, an introduction to a subject that is far older than the textbooks and protractors we encounter today. In Montessori, Geometry is more than about shapes. It is about human beings solving real problems in the real world. A Problem as Old as Civilization To reintroduce geometry, we time-travel back around 5,000 years to the ancient civilization of Egypt. This was a land shaped by the Nile River, the longest river in the world. Each year, the Nile flooded its banks as snowmelt poured down from the mountains far to the south. The Egyptians depended on this yearly flood as it left behind rich, dark silt that nourished their crops and made life possible in an otherwise harsh desert. But the flood created a challenge, too. It washed away the boundary markers that separated one farmer’s field from another. When the waters receded, no one could quite remember where their land began and ended. Arguments ensued. “This corner is mine!” And the fields needed to be measured and marked again. The First Geometers: The Rope Stretchers To solve this annual problem, the Egyptians relied on a special group of skilled workers called the Harpedonaptai, or Rope Stretchers. These were early land surveyors who used a knotted rope tied at regular intervals and three weights to create a very particular triangle. In our elementary classrooms, we invite a few children to hold a prepared rope at its large knots, forming that same triangle. As they stretch it out and lay it on the ground, many quickly recognize what the Egyptians had unknowingly created: a scalene right-angled triangle. This shape would later become central to the geometry studied by Greek mathematicians. The Harpedonaptai used this simple tool to re-establish field boundaries, set right angles, and make sure the land was measured accurately and fairly. Geometry, in its earliest form, served a deeply practical purpose. From Rope to Pyramid The Harpedonaptai’s expertise was valued far beyond the farmlands. They also helped lay out the foundations of temples, monuments, and even the Great Pyramid of Giza. The base of the Great Pyramid is a perfect square, which is an astonishing feat of measurement and design. The Pharaoh himself oversaw these measurements, but it was the Rope Stretchers who executed them. Their work represents one of humanity’s earliest recorded sciences: the careful measuring of the earth. How Geometry Got Its Name The name geometry reflects this ancient practice. It comes from two Greek words: gê — earth metron — measure Geometry literally means earth measurement. The Egyptians did not use the language of right angles, nor did they classify triangles as we do today. Their work was grounded in practical needs. They needed to solve problems, organize land, and create structures that would endure for thousands of years. Yet their discoveries influenced later thinkers like Pythagoras, who likely traveled to Egypt and learned from their methods. Over time, the simple knotted rope inspired a whole discipline devoted to understanding lines, angles, shapes, and the relationships between them. Why We Tell This Story in Montessori When Montessori children hear this story, something important happens. Geometry becomes more than a set of rules or vocabulary words. It becomes a human endeavor born from curiosity, necessity, and ingenuity. The heart of Montessori education at Wheaton Montessori School is to help children view knowledge not as isolated subjects, but as valuable gifts passed down from earlier generations. When children pick up a ruler, explore angles with a protractor, or classify triangles in the classroom, they are continuing a legacy that began with those early Rope Stretchers, the Harpedonaptai on the banks of the Nile. Through story, students feel connected to the people who shaped our world and to the problems that inspired great ideas. Geometry becomes meaningful, purposeful, and alive, from our preschoolers working with the Geometry Cabinet , to elementary students classifying and measuring angles or using hands-on Pythagorean Theory materials, and all the way through our adolescents. At the adolescent level, geometry moves fully into the real world. Students apply measurement, angles, area, scale, and spatial reasoning through meaningful work across campus, including: Measuring and mapping land for the campus’s Wetland Conservation Area, as well as calculating classroom square footage for recognition and accreditation applications Understanding and applying area, perimeter, scale, and proportion when working with acreage, restoration plans, and campus layouts Designing and situating functional structures such as chicken coops using geometric principles Applying angle classification, measurement, and spatial reasoning through woodworking Using geometry to cut, join, and build accurately, including raised beds, greenhouses, and beehive insulation boxes