Cultivating a Thriving Classroom
Suzanna Mayhugh • September 3, 2025

In all thriving Montessori classrooms, students and guides are constantly balancing freedom and responsibility. Students enjoy several freedoms that might be inhibited elsewhere: freedom to move around the classroom, freedom to choose their own work, freedom to socialize, freedom to question, and freedom to learn according to their interests. These freedoms are always balanced against a high level of responsibility: to themselves, to their peers, and to their classroom. 

 

Read on to understand how the freedoms and responsibilities are balanced in the Elementary program at Wheaton Montessori School.


What Kind of Classroom Do You Want to Have? 


One of the ways that teachers guide students towards being accountable for their actions and within the classroom is a classroom meeting early in the year, during which the students discuss what "kind of classroom" they want to be a part of - and what rules or expectations will help them achieve their goals. This photograph shows what students in one of our Lower Elementary classrooms (grades 1st-3rd) shared when asked, "What kind of classroom do you want to have?"


Otherwise, unprompted by the teacher, these young children offered hopes for "an artistic," "peaceful," "hard-working, "considerate," and "friendly" classroom, Others shared that having friends use polite language and table manners was important to them. Many shared that they wanted to be a part of a "helpful" classroom, where everyone could be encouraged to be "curious." Another shared that they wanted to feel safe at school. "Clean," "neat," and "tidy" were shared by many (maybe to the surprise of parents who would love a tidier playroom!). 

 

After the students share what kind of classroom they want to have, the teacher will ask, "So, how do we get there? What do we need to do every day to be sure that we have this kind of classroom?


Students Explore Rules and Expectations

 

If you want your classroom to be clean and tidy, what will you need to do when you're done with your work? If you've made a mess? If you see a spill? 

 

If you want your classroom to be a place where it feels safe, how will you move your body within it? How should you walk with scissors, supplies, or large items? How should you hold your body if you're standing in line next to a friend? 

 

If you want your classroom to be hard-working and a place where curiosity is welcomed, what kind of work should you be selecting from the shelves? Should it be work you've perfected long ago? Or something that stretches your brain? Should you join a research project? Should you welcome questions or scoff when a peer raises their hand? 

 

As students think through these questions, rules begin to develop from the children's discussion, guided by the adult. They discuss what they think appropriate consequences should be to work refusal, unkindness, not being responsible for messes, or not working at a level that each child knows they can. 

 

Embracing Responsibility, Enjoying Freedom

 

When classroom rules are tied to the goal of manifesting the classroom you'd want, thought through and agreed upon by all of your peers, children take on the responsibility of caring for themselves, their peers, and their classrooms. This responsibility allows them the freedom that they love so much - and with which they flourish, thrive, and grow. 


How Your Young Children Learn and Why It Matters
By Rebecca Lingo February 23, 2026
How Your Young Children Learn and Why It Matters Your young children learn by actively constructing themselves through purposeful work. From birth through age six, learning is not passive or instructional. It is driven from within your child, supported by responsive adults like you and all of my colleagues. This internal passion to learn is also boosted through the campus design and surroundings. Every movement, repetition, and exploration is meaningful work that builds the child’s body, mind, language, and sense of self. How learning happens Active construction through work: Your young children learn by doing. Don’t we all! Movement, using the hands, exploring real materials, and repeating challenging tasks are how the brain develops. This work must be meaningful and appropriately challenging, not busy work. Movement and the hand: Development of walking, balance, and refined hand use is foundational. Your children of all ages need freedom to move and manipulate real objects to fully develop coordination, concentration, and foundational academics like writing and adding. Language through relationship: Language develops through reciprocal human interactions. Rich spoken language, conversation, naming the world, and storytelling are essential. Wheaton Montessori School eliminates screens and background noise to highlight communication. Sensorial exploration of reality: Your children learn the world through their senses. Touching, comparing, carrying, observing, and interacting with real things builds the foundation for imagination, reasoning, and abstract thinking later. Authentic Montessori immerses us in exploration and discovery. Sensitive periods: Your children pass through brief, powerful windows of heightened interest and ability, such as for language, movement, social behavior, etc. Wheaton Montessori School teachers observe and offer the right experience at the right time. Learning happens easily and joyfully and feels like play! Concentration and normalization: When your children are connected to meaningful work that they choose themselves and repeat, they develop deep concentration, self-regulation, delight in effort, and care for others. Why This Is Important Early experiences shape lifelong learning: Early experiences lay the neurological, emotional, and social foundation for everything that follows. Missed opportunities are harder to recover: Skills learned during ideal stages are acquired with ease. When these periods are missed, learning later requires more effort and frustration. My colleagues are passionate about tailoring lessons and their classrooms to match child development (and adolescent development, too!) Strong foundations support later independence: Your children deserve rich early support leading to confident, capable, socially aware, and academically prepared people. Well-supported children become well-adjusted humans: This approach supports not just academic readiness, but the development of secure, courteous, empathetic children who care about their community and the world. In short, your children learn best when they are trusted as active learners, supported by attentive adults, and given real, challenging work at the right time. Investing in this early foundation supports not only your child’s success in school, but their lifelong well-being and ability to thrive.
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